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本期沙龙主题：分手专家 主讲老师：Connor
结束一段感情是人一生中最难做的事情之一，伤心欲绝，很快那个曾经的爱人会称呼你为前男友或者前女友。当然，能够走到这一步绝对也是万不得已的，但是为什么让人如此恐惧编队分手的那一刻呢？这是因为我们不想伤害对方...
Ending a relationship is one of the hardest things you can do, it breaks your heart inside, and your soon to be ex-partner. Sure, you have your reasons to break up with them, but how come it is still so hard? Because we don't want to break their hearts...
特邀嘉宾：
Vincent wen 心理学家，感情问题处理专家，分手专家
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热点问题：
How do you break up? Is there any story we could share? What is the most difficult part? any tip?
文章导读：
Breaking up is rarely easy. You both had feelings for each other at one point, and maybe you still do. The key is to do it maturely, without deliberate pain, so that you can both move on with your lives and find someone better suited for you. A relationship really needs two fully committed people, so if one of you doesn't want to be in the relationship any more, it's best for BOTH of you to end it. That's the key message to get across.
Don't get into lots of blame-finding. There is always fault on both sides in a relationship that fails. Make sure you sit down face to face somewhere quiet. Never break up over the phone or via email, that's completely unfair. A relationship is based on trust and dependability - don't prove you're unworthy of that in the final hour. Sit down and explain it's not going to work. If your partner has questions, answer them as fairly as you can, but without going into lots of back-stabbing. Breaking up isn't about finding fault. It's about you both being able to find "closure" to this relationship so you are able to then move on to a new one.
It's really in both of your best interests to end this cleanly. If you don't, it will come back to haunt you in many ways. If you can both accept that this was simply not meant to be, and that somewhere out there a new person awaits which IS perfect for each of you, you might even be able to stay friends. Or if not, you can look back on your time together as an enjoyable experiment which just didn't work out the way you'd originally hoped.
分手必读关键词 Key Words:
cushion the beat beat around the bush hook up play hard-to-get Band-Aid Long Distance relationship Get Over Chase Flirt have a secret crush on sb dump
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分手秘诀
Break Up Tip:
Tip 1:If you are sure you want to break up with somebody, it is best done sooner rather than later. However, if your partner has had a particularly bad day already, you may want to consider waiting for a better moment. Breaking up with them when they are already down will make the break-up much harder for both of you.
Tip 2:While honesty is the best policy, you may want to focus on the fundamental issues destroying the relationship and not nitpick on the little annoyances that drive you
mad. Those annoyances are usually symptoms of the underlying problems--we're far more likely to get annoyed, irritable, and frustrated when we know the relationship isn't working out.
分手必看电影：
The Moive You Must Watch. The Break Up Artist
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上海十佳推荐分手地点：
本分手地点的推荐注重几个因素：1、场地空旷便于情绪失控的情况下逃离现场。2、周围无易摔易碎物品，避免人身伤害。3：方圆百米内最好有人，以便求救！
1 . 警察局门口
永远不要小看爱情的杀伤力 选择此类地点如同先为自己买好分手后的保险 特别适合脾气暴戾派的情侣，遇到死残烂打的对手可以找政府帮忙
温馨提示：最好是白天提出分手，因为那个时候警力很猛，叫一声就可出动兵力；之所以不推荐晚上呢，我想大家也明白为什么呢！
2. 和他／她的第一次约会地点（颇有置之死地而后生 哪里开始就在哪里了的纪念价值）
3. 电影院（和平影都）
选择一部比较搞笑的电影看得正哈哈大笑时说分手，之后你可以走掉
经典推荐；人民广场和平影都，为啥要选择它呢，一是人流量大，好混入人流中。二是该电影院电梯方便，如果是八百半电影院的话，等个电梯要等半天，有那时间早就给活捉呢！！
4. 南京路步行街：
那是美女帅“锅”聚集的地方，错综复杂的线路，拥挤的人群。这里同样是分手的最佳地点。
推荐理由：能马上消失在人流当中，当对方后悔的时候已经消失的无影无踪.并且再被P腿的同时也可以马上再盯下一个目标！！
5. 四号线地铁站
和对方玩一个游戏，各自朝反方向坐地铁，看看是否可以相遇。四号线最大的特点是：环线 就是一个圈圈。 然后坐两站找个咖啡厅给对方打个电话说“我一直怀疑我们有没有缘分，如果在过10分钟，我们还不能遇到的话……需要冷静想想我们之间的关系”。不用说，除非奇迹出现，不然你的小诡计就可以顺利实现。
6. 城隍庙
这里是上海小商品和旅游的集散地，先送对方一些便宜的饰物，然后带对方来到必风塘去谈谈心，此地适合能说会道，感性忽悠高手使用，配合眼泪流下的速度，说一些以后还会继续联系的谎话，让对方收藏好刚送的礼物，让对方要开心的活下去。
7. 公园（森林公园）
公园整体被绿色竹子环抱，环境优美恬静，人进入其中，立刻能心旷神怡。如果你有诗人的气质，请选择这里。
优点：可以在如诗如画的景色中，说出那句不太干净的词语。在这种绿色的环境中，对方不会马上发脾气。
8. 飞机场（虹桥，浦东机场皆可）
这是一个颇有味道的分手地方，很有寓意！ 一望无际的飞机场，定能给你无限的情怀！就看你说得出口么？
9. 正大广场
地处上海标志性建筑；东方明珠的下方，上海最大广场之一，，如果你很善良，不想伤害对方。这里将是绝佳的场地，带他(她)逛吧，众多逃跑的机会正等待着你。一路小跑，接着再一个分手电话，问题彻底解决。商场人流众多，不必担心对方想不开，要死要活的，把心放到肚子里，男英雄女英雄这时候都很密集。
10. 大学校园（首推复旦）
如果你是一个浪漫的人，这里就是你浪漫的结束地，一顿快乐的聚餐后，带她去周围散散步，，途中树林茂密，拿出中考的跑步成绩，你就可以解决分手的问题。
优点：大学生比较善良，说不定你还成就了另一对姻缘。
缺点：大学都比较大，小心自己把自己丢掉出不去，还要给对方打电话！
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